For those of you for whom Mother’s Day can’t be over fast enough…who are actively or quietly grieving no matter how long it’s been since you lost your mother…know these truths.
Know that you aren’t alone. That others who have lost their mothers know the kind of pain you’re experiencing even though everyone’s pain is unique.
Know that a time will come when this isn’t all so terribly painful, even if that time is years away.
Know that your elements of your mother will always be with you, regardless of if your relationship was non-existent, frayed, or loving.
Know that you don’t ever have to search for meaning, as it will arise naturally if and when you’re ready and if it’s something that feels right for you. No one else can prescribe meaning to an event outside of how it impacts his or her own life.
Know that there is no time limit to your grief and that no feelings are wrong.
Know that if you feel guilty because of something you said, something you didn’t say, something that happened, or something that didn’t happen, it’s not your fault. And it’s not her fault or someone else’s fault either. Finding fault and placing blame will only prolong your suffering.
Know that you can have feelings that aren’t good or bad. They are just a normal part of the grieving process.
Know that it’s ok to not be ok.
Know that it’s ok to feel like you’re moving on with life. Know that it’s ok if you feel like you can’t move on with life.
Know that you are loved.